When it comes time to stop sowing those wild oats, a vasectomy is a common choice. And in this day and age, the process is comparatively uncomplicated (and often reversible via vasectomy reversal, if you decide down the line that you weren’t quite ready to give up those oats after all). In both cases, though, there are definitely things you and your partner will want to discuss before going through with either procedure.
Are you happy with the current size of your family?
For many couples, the decision to have a vasectomy is based on being content with your family as is. If you already have several children, you may decide you’ve fulfilled your dream, and there’s no need to add another bundle of joy. Or perhaps you’ve decided you don’t want any children, and a vasectomy is a safe and secure way to prevent pregnancy.
On the other hand, maybe you’ve already had a vasectomy, but now you’re thinking a delivery from the stork might be just what the doctor ordered. Men, remember: you’re allowed to change your mind, too!
What it all comes down to is this: It takes two. It’s important to discuss your family plans with your partner to make sure you are both on the same page.
Do you have all the information you need about the procedure?
You’ll definitely want to ask your doctor about what a vasectomy or vasectomy reversal is like—recovery time, what the procedure actually entails, how to care for your body afterward, when you can safely have sex again, and any other questions you might have. While men sometimes think they’re the only ones who want the details, women generally also want to know what their partners are going through and how they can help with recovery. Be sure to get all the information you need beforehand so you’re both in the know.
Have you just entered into a new relationship?
While a vasectomy can be an extremely effective method of birth control, it’s also worth noting that things change. If you’ve just entered into a new relationship—a second marriage, for example—you may decide that you want to have children with your new spouse after all. In fact, 6-12% of men who have undergone a vasectomy decide to have it reversed. A new relationship can mean new possibilities when it comes to raising a family. Then again, a new relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll want more kids involved. Either way, it’s important to discuss with your partner, particularly if the relationship is new.
Whether you’re looking into a vasectomy or a vasectomy reversal, the key is communication—both with your partner and with your doctor. If you’re in the Los Angeles or Orange County area, you can request a free vasectomy or vasectomy reversal consultation with me to review your specific situation.